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Blame and Foundation #2 Posted 2.28.2013
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Foundation #1 God is real and life is about Him.

Foundation #2 The heart of my problems is found inside me.

Do you find yourself subtly, or not so subtly, blaming other people or your circumstances for your sinful response?  "The only reason I said those hurtful things is because you..."  "If you wouldn't...then i wouldn't have to..."  Or perhaps you've heard your children blaming each other for the fight over a toy?  We think the other person is our problem and if they'd just let us have our way then things would be peachy and we wouldn't do or say those awful things.


But the Bible is clear.  It offers no exceptions for our sinful responses.  My sin is my problem.  I alone am responsible.  If my sin was because of someone or something else then would I need a Savior or someone who would make things happen the way I wanted them to be?  (Isn't that secretly what we really want?!


However Jesus doesn't allow us to pass off our sin.  Mark 7:20ff is clear...And then he added, "It is what comes from inside that defiles you. 21 For from within, out of a person's heart, come evil thoughts, sexual immorality, theft, murder, 22 adultery, greed, wickedness, deceit, lustful desires, envy, slander, pride, and foolishness. 23 All these vile things come from within; they are what defile you."


So not only is my sin my problem, but my problem is a heart problem.  Therefore Jesus says deal with the log in our own eye.  In other words, my focus ought to be to on how I have dishonored God and others, not on what others have done to me.  This is especially important to model in front of our children: confessing, asking for forgiveness, and demonstrating repentance.  Teach them by talking about it, but also by doing it in front of them.  They already know you are not perfect so let's just be honest before them and God.

Here are some questions to discuss with your spouse...

1. How did Adam and Eve respond to God when He came to them after they disobeyed?

2. How does blame amplify the problem?

3. How could you use Foundation #2 to help your family understand blame?

4. How does Foundation #1 and #2 work together?

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