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A Unique Perspective on SCOTUS Posted 7.03.2015

We are still trying to understand what SCOTUS did last week, legalizing gay marriage.  I’ve been doing lots of reading on the subject, but one article, written by Christopher Yuan and Rosaria Butterfield (both actively involved in gay rights before they came to Christ) challenged my thinking.  I couldn’t put down.  It is too long for the Back Page, so I will edit it for space.


This is the world that we, Christopher and Rosaria, helped build—a world pursuing dignity and equality. The people celebrating the SCOTUS decision to redefine marriage (and with marriage, personhood) would have been us, not very long ago.


In 1999, when Jesus revealed his saving grace and love to each of us, we learned that our unbelief, and the idolatrous sexual lusts that flowed from it, were no longer matters of personal choice. We accepted that following Jesus meant giving up everything. We understood that repentance meant fleeing from anything that embodied the temptations we knew best and loved most. When the Holy Spirit changed our hearts, we came to know this:  the gospel is costly and worth it.


And even though some in our culture believe, as Justice Kennedy wrote, that marriage “embodies the highest ideals of love,” we disagree. Earthly marriage does not have a monopoly on love. God is love (1 John 4:7–19). The pinnacle of love is his love for us in Christ. Nothing is greater.


In actuality, marriage is a mystery and only a reflection of that greater reality. The highest ideal of love is Christ’s love for his bride, the church. Only in Christ can anyone experience the full definition of love and acceptance. As important as earthly marriage and family are, they are temporary.


We have failed to show the LGBT community another option to marriage—singleness—lived out in the fruitful and full context of the family of God. This does not mean, as Justice Kennedy wrote, that singles are “condemned to live in loneliness,” but that singles can have intimate and fulfilling relationships full of love. It can be just as rewarding and fulfilling as marriage, not a consolation prize.


Have we in the church inadvertently played into the lie with our idolatry of marriage while being silent toward singleness? If singleness is unfair, then it’s no wonder marriage has become a right. It is time for the church to fight for the dignity and respect of single women and single men.


Some are comparing the Supreme Court’s decision on gay marriage with Roe v. Wade.  Learn from history:  today, there are more pro-life young adults than ever before. When pro-life people began fighting less and caring more for unborn babies and for women with unplanned pregnancies, a shift in focus brought about an important change. So will we begin caring for the LGBT community just as they are?


This is a defining moment in history. We have an opportunity to shine for the gospel. Will we point people to marriage as the “highest ideal of love”? Or will we point people—whether married or single—to a life of costly discipleship pursuing the embodiment of love, Jesus Christ himself?


The decision is ours to make.


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