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Opening our Mouths for Godliness Posted 7.19.2013

Sometimes it’s tough to stand for truth.  Godliness can harm a reputation.  Here is one dad’s struggle to live godly as public education teaches sexuality to his child.  It was a meeting to preview the curriculum.  As he skimmed it he found page after page of instructions in the prevention of pregnancy or disease. He found abstinence mentioned only in passing. When the teacher arrived with the school nurse, she asked if there were any questions. He asked why abstinence did not play a noticeable part in the material.  I will let him finish his story….

What happened next was shocking. There was a great deal of laughter, and someone suggested that if I thought abstinence had any merit, I should go back to burying my head in the sand. The teacher and the nurse said nothing as I drowned in a sea of embarrassment. My mind had gone blank, and I could think of nothing to say. The teacher explained to me that the job of the school was to "teach facts," and the home was responsible for moral training. I sat in silence for the next 20 minutes as the course was explained.


"Donuts, at the back," announced the teacher. "I'd like you to put on the name tags we have prepared - they're right by the donuts - and mingle with the other parents."

Everyone moved to the back of the room. As I watched them affix their nametags and shake hands. I was ashamed that I had not been able to convince them to include a serious discussion of abstinence in the materials. I uttered a silent prayer for guidance. My thoughts were interrupted by the nurse's hand on my shoulder. "Won't you join the others, Mr. Layton?" The nurse smiled sweetly at me. "Thank you, no," I replied.

When the class was called back to order, the teacher looked around and thanked everyone for putting on nametags. She ignored me.  Then she said, "Now we're going to give you the same lesson we'll be giving your children. Everyone please peel off your name tags." I watched as the tags came off. "Now, on the back of one tag I drew a tiny flower. Who has it?" The gentleman across from me held it up. "All right, she said. "The flower represents disease. Do you recall with whom you shook hands?" He pointed to a couple of people. "Very good," she replied. "The handshake in this case represents intimacy. So the two people you had contact with now have the disease." There was laughter among the parents.

The teacher continued, "And whom did the two of you shake hands with?" The point was well taken, and she explained how this lesson would show students how quickly disease is spread. "Since we all shook hands, we all have the disease."

It was then that I heard a small voice. "Speak now,” it said, "but be humble." I apologized for any upset I might have caused earlier, congratulated the teacher on an excellent lesson, and concluded by saying I had only one small point I wished to make. "Not all of us were infected," I said. "One of us...abstained."


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